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Stories of Hope and Inspiration After Violence Response from a Advocate1. What are Skip’s greatest needs at this time in his life? At this point in his life, Skip is unable to stand on his own and is afraid of reverting back to his old behavior. He needs a mentor, a person who will support him in positive life choices. Skip also needs to hear that God wants to be part of the plan for his life. 2. What might a local congregation offer to a man in Skip’s situation? A local congregation can embrace him as a person and provide him with a safe, non-judgmental environment. He needs to have a sense of belonging in a community where men are encouraged to have healthy fun and participate in activities that are non-threatening. A church can provide opportunities for Skip to belong to groups where men are non-violent and non-abusive. 3. How does faith and faith-based connections weave throughout Skip’s life? Skip mentions the faith of his grandmother – clearly she had an impact on his life. In his move closer to God, scriptures will become more important to him. Skip needs to remember that King David was a man after God’s heart – God is a forgiving God and there is still hope. 4. If you were the minister of the church Skip now attends, how would you understand pastoral care for this man and his family? Skip is looking for answers in the scriptures. Instead of telling him what he should do, a pastor should show him what he should do, by providing appropriate scriptures. His pastor should be non-judgmental, positive and encouraging. Yet, his pastor must also hold him accountable, call abuse what it is and keep him moving forward. Connie Henderson and Debra Wideman |
